While I would not say that the relationships that I have seen are disrespectful or unprofessional, I would question whether they are as collaborative as they should be. For example, the school committee agenda is published in summary form on Friday for the following Monday's meeting. This does not allow enough time to find out more about a particular agenda item. Additionally, the actual reports are not available except for viewing after the meeting, which means that there is little hope of providing reasonable feedback about an issue.
One of the ways that I would improve communication would be to meet with the parent groups at each of the schools at least twice per year. Additionally, I would ask that draft and final reports from the superintendent should be published on one of the school web sites for review by the public. Since the reports are already created electronically, it would not take much to provide them to a web site for public viewing.
The school committee and city council should also work more productively together. Instead of taking offense about city council touching on school affairs, both bodies should determine how best to communicate when issues overlap jurisdictions. As a school committee member, I would cultivate my relationship with the city councilors, who I have gotten to know quite well over the past two years. I believe that one of my strengths is the ability to work with others even though I may have considerable philosophical differences with them.